Is My Man Cheating - Do Men Feel Sorry About It?
By JaneA. | July 23, 2008
What does regret mean?
Regret involves guilt, feeling bad about something and to perceive it as a loss, but analyzing it from its polite point of view we find that it is used when expressing sorrow and most often to apologize or deliver bad news.
For those hurt by infidelity, the pain and disappointment are so deep that apologies as a polite expression or in its natural sense are useless and unappreciated. Thus, the ones who cheated will not feel loss, but a great pain seeing their partner down, hurt and possibly crying. Loss will occur later on, when they find themselves alone and wake up to reality.
What does he actually regret?
The loss and guilt endured by those who cheat puts them face to face with a cruel world. Robert Browning had written a poem and deciphering it we discover that the absence of the loved one has such a strong impact upon men consciousness that they suddenly wake up to reality. Then, the mistakes committed become clear and identified as sins towards God and the spouse, after which moral blame arises. Sometimes this process is purely accidental or influenced by sorrow strength, but it reveals that the man realizes his actions, fault and most importantly, that he mistakenly believed that happiness lays there. Unfortunately, without having his soulmate near, he feels lost and out of hope.
But, due to the fact that he still longs for what he did, the feeling of regret has not yet fully appeared.
Honest Regret
Even if more that 75% of the couples which get divorced due to infidelity regret it later, it has been noticed that, when men confess their evil deeds, they act naturally and avoid giving further information. This technique is a bad one from scratch, because trust has already disappeared and this behavior tells the victim that he is still stuck on infidelity, which is not always true.
An open-hearted regret offers the partner the liberty to analyze and clear up her emotions. She knows that forgiveness is an option, but this choice stays in her hands and it may be broken due to trust violation. Although everyone deserves a second chance, this decision depends and says at her discretion.
Surprisingly, a proof that men feel sorry is when they lie, and in that moment their loss is significant and painful. In this kind of situation, they hide their sins and do it because they strongly believe it won’t happen again.
In the celebrity world, there are men who truly regret their bad deeds, but some act quite normal when dealing with infidelity stating that ” there’s no room for sorrow. I admit I sometimes felt regret but refused myself to become imbued with it”. One thing is for sure: in order to learn their lesson they first must experience regret, tough risking their marriage and happiness is not the best solution.
The above statements show that although men might suffer a lot or only in the public eye, they are capable of sorrow and regret does exist in their world after infidelity deeds. But, time is an important aspect which is able to reveal their behavior, beliefs and distinguish them between loyal and unfaithful husbands.
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Be Safe When You Date
By JayneWaldorf | July 23, 2008
On line dating is a dating service based on the internet, because it is based on the internet it can reach out to every corner of the globe and so is much further reaching and with many more subscribers than a conventional dating service. Even so it would be unreasonable to expect to meet Miss or Mr Right on your first online date.
The internet makes the search for love more convenient, it can save time and money.
Online dating was once thought to be (by many) unacceptable. You must (as with any unknown) be ever vigilant of your safety. If you feel in the slightest bit uncomfortable then cease communications with the person concerned. You will have the facility of blocking a person you feel uncomfortable with.
You will be required to complete an online dating profile, be as truthful as possible in this if you are hoping to find a life long partner; any discrepancies may be difficult to explain later.
If you are single and looking for love or friendship why not try one of the many online dating services. You can easily see who has checked out your profile and who there is that matches your criteria.
There is not the stigma attached to online dating today as there was years ago and most people are genuinely looking for love from the choice of millions of potential partners. You do not have to meet anyone unless you want to and you should not disclose any personal details for example your phone number, address or email address until you are 100% comfortable in doing so. If you have waited a lifetime to meet Mr or Miss Right a little while longer waiting until you feel secure won’t hurt.
Love is the main reason people turn to online dating. Before you begin online dating ask yourself are you looking for love and commitment or is it friendship that you want. If you only want friendship and whoever you are chatting to clearly wants more then simply more on to another online date.
Likewise if you are looking for love and the person you are chatting to clearly does not want commitment then this is not for you and there are plenty of other potential partners to try.
Get to know someone and see if you enjoy spending time with them. Are they fun to communicate with? Do you feel you can trust your online date?
The bigger sites have more features and some will screen their clients .But while the bigger sites may have webcams etc they are really only aimed at dating people in general. Always remember that you can have as much privacy as you want, you are in control.
If someone is not very forthcoming give them a chance, they may be painfully shy and who knows once you manage to make them feel confident they may be just what you were looking for, so please do have a little patience and don’t dismiss anyone too easily but if it makes you feel uncomfortable then more on to someone else.
May you find whatever you are looking for and enjoy what you have.
Jayne Waldorf lives in Cheshire,England with her husband she invites you to visit her new website http://www.waldorfelite.com where you will find advice, information and merchandise relating to dating, relationships, weddings and marriage.
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How to Get Over a Break Up in 4 Simple Steps
By BillyK. | July 23, 2008
No one likes to be on the wrong side of a breakup. That much is obvious. There’s no doubt you’re going through a difficult time right now, but there are ways through it — and we’re going to cover those now.
In fact, by the time you finish reading this story, you’re already going to be feeling better. So let’s get started.
How to Get Your Ex Back (If You Want To)
Okay, the first thing we need to discuss is the possibility of “reversing” the break up.
By that I mean actually getting your ex back. Now before you say this is impossible, let me assure you that it most certainly is not. In fact, in probably 90% of cases it’s actually easier to just go ahead and win your ex back than it is to suffer through the pain and trauma of a break up.
Now, getting your ex back isn’t hard. But does require you to go through some very specific steps to make it happen.
Since this is an article about ways to deal with a break up, I’m not going to go into detail about this here. But what you can do, and what you really must do, is to go ahead and check out the links down at the end of this story.
Those sites are absolutely essential if you hold out any hope of saving your relationship. You owe it to yourself to at least check them out, so be sure and do that, okay?
4 Tips for Getting Over a Break Up
Okay, now that we’ve covered that, let’s get into some steps you can take to start feeling better fast.
1. Don’t dwell.
When you have broken up with someone, you’ll find that the breakup is frequently all that you can think about. You’ll find that you want to talk about, and that you want to stew over it, and it can be hard doing anything that is associated with your ex without thinking about the bad feelings from the breakup.
Remember that in the long run, this will turn you into someone who can’t stop dwelling on a past relationship! Gather up your willpower and make sure that you find something else to think about.
2. Stay friends
Sure, you’re willing to pay lip service to the idea of staying friends, but are you willing to go the distance? If your ex is a good person, chances are, you are going to want them in your life no matter how far you’ve come from being a couple.
Make time for them, expect them to make time for you. Be respectful of new relationships, and try to speak with them as a friend, rather than as someone who is manipulating them towards a specific end goal.
3. Keep yourself presentable
If you have recently gone through a bad breakup, you’ll find that there are plenty of reasons why you might want to let your appearance go. You may feel that no one will appreciate it, or that there’s no point.
In many ways, this can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t take the time to make sure that you are presentable, no one will be willing to get close enough to see what an awesome person you are.
4. Don’t give up
Remember, it’s a very, very doable thing to get your ex back. In fact, there’s a good chance that this is much more likely than you think, so make sure that you check out the sites below. They’ll help you put things right!
This site has been known to save relationships many people thought could never be saved: How to Get Over a Break Up After that, head over to this How to Get Over a Break Up article. Then, you should also see this How to Get Over a Break Up round up, which has a ton of great stuff.
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