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Finding True Love And Staying Safe With Online Dating
By Pam Baldwin | May 18, 2008
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It can be very complicated to find that true love everyone is looking for, and even more in today’s hectic society. Meeting people the old fashioned ways such as going to bars seem to take lots of our time and can be often disappointing. However nowadays the internet can be a very handy tool in meeting that special someone. Now I am going to give you some tips on how to be safe while trying to meet that special person.
There are several websites like Date com or PerfectMatch that can help you in meeting new people, but trying to talk to someone you have never met before can scare a lot of people! So now I am going to give some useful advice in how to stay safe while meeting this new potential partners. Lots of people dislike blind dates after all so why try and risk to meet a stranger whom you have never seen before? Well here I have some tips on how to get to know this person as good as you can.
Always use a real website that at least has some reputation like Date com or PerfectMatch which are ideal to start your quest for true love.
Invest in a webcam. You can find cheap webcams for around $30. This way, you can use an instant messaging program to see the person you’re talking to.
It is also smart to buy a microphone. A microphone will save you from all those bills from long distance calls since we never know where the person we will meet will be from.
Never ever give any important personal information like your address or phone number to strangers, not even if they seem to live far away from you.
It always a good idea that if a real life date is arranged bewtween the two of you, you should try make it in a public place during the day and if that is not possible then bring a friend along.
Listen carefully. Make sure your online date isn’t giving you different stories. Was he/she a lawyer one week and a dentist the next? Online scammers are common, but usually easy to spot if you listen.
Try to not be too defensive or paranoid. I assure you even though some people have bad intentions, lots are good ones looking for the same as you.
dating can be fun, but safety is key. Create a safe environment in which you can learn more about the person you’re dating. Whether online or offline, initially you don’t know a lot about your date at first. You want to be in a comfortable and safe place where you can learn about them. Always listen to your gut instinct. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
One of the biggest concerns with online dating is the legitimacy if the person you’re meeting. Are they being honest with you? Are they really who they say? After meeting several people online, I’ve learned that sometimes people will lie, whether because it makes them look better or because they’re insecure about themselves. So it can be hard to tell who’s being honest with you. I’ve found that having a webcam and using a microphone are great tools because often times, if a person is dishonest you can see it on their face and hear it in their voice.
Always always know that information such as your phone number and address are off-limits, at least at first. Giving this information can lead to a potential disaster. If you feel like sharing your phone number use a cellphone at first since it is harder to extract information about you from this kind of phone number. If you really wish to give an address make it a PO Box or even your workplace before you give out your home’s address. These are easy tips to follow but go a long way to help you in protecting yourself.
First dates should always take place in public places. If you really feel like you finally have the best person for you and cannot wait to meet… then arrange your date! But remember that if that date is in a public place it will feel safer for everyone, and if a bad situation should arise fro bad luck, it will be much easier to avoid it when surrounded by other people. Finding a type of date that gives you an excuse to bring a friend is always a good idea too. You don’t want your first date to be somewhere all alone with a stranger. Bad idea!
Do not overdo things and act too paranoid or distrustful. No one appreciates if their date warns them that they already did a complete background check on them. Have fun and realize not everyone is out there to try and hurt you. Chances are the other person wants true love as much as you and is also taking their chances exactly as much as you are.
These tips are really not complicated and by following them you will have an easier experience in enjoying a movie or a nice dinner with that special someone you just met. Just try to take it with a possitive attitude, meet in a public place, listen close to what they say, pay attention to your inner voice, and take it slowly without giving too much information at first. Always have fun and stay positive… which is basically the point of this whole thing!
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