Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1

dating can be your best friend.

…OR your worst adversary.

Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.

Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way there’s less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”

It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.

Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

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