Helpful Hints To Get That Second Date

You’ve had the first date and would like to have a second date with her now. You have the sense that things went well, and consider the time spent together. It wasn’t so easy to figure out what she was feeling though, as it often isn’t on the first date. Nothing catastrophic occurred, so the possibility of another date with this woman are pretty good, all in all.

In preparing to make a follow-up call, it is a very good useful idea to look at what you did on the first date, and recall what things you liked about each event that you shared. Writing down this information is a good thing to do. One way to show interest in your date is by recalling specific things of the date you shared together already.

Confidence is mandatory when preparing to make the follow-up call to the first date. Whether by reciting affirmations, exercising to build up adreneline, talking with a good friend who supports you, there are any number of ways leading up to feeling good about yourself. It takes courage sometimes to make that call, and so, without being cocky, this is a very good action to undertake before placing that call. Just make sure the confidence doesn’t cross over into egotism or grandiosity.

Dial that number! when she answers, make sure you clearly state who are to avoid any embarrassing and confidence deflating moments. Make sure you talk for a couple minutes about her. How she’s doing, what she did today, are vital questions to ask. She’ll know you’re a good listner, and women like that! Ask one follow-up question to her answers. Any more and she may think you’re bugging her, but asking an extra question might just give you points in her book.

Once the conversation has warmed up and become more at ease, inquire as to her plans for later in the week. This will give you better chances of there being availability in her schedule should she care to see you again. If nothing is planned, then it would be a good time to ask her if she’d like to go out again. Be casual yet interested. Maybe say \”get together\” instead of \”second date\”, which may be too stressful of a term for her. If she does have plans, don’t fret, simply tell her why you called; that you had a great time last time you were together, and are interested in doing so again soon. Just remember to keep it easy and light.

She said yes? Great! Well, if this isn’t you, don’t worry. If you’re really that interested in going on a second date with that specific person, tell her that if she has some free time and would like to go out with you, that she call you. She may call back for another date when she feels like it is on her terms. She may not call at all. Don’t hold your breath, or wait by the phone.

If she didn’t sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it’s okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.

Lastly, be sure to be yourself. People like people. Trying to be someone you are not, will only land you in trouble down the road. Be kind. Be courteous. Be a good listener. Be involved. Be spontaneous! If you can follow these simple directions, i’m sure that second date will be a piece of cake.

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