Are You Trying To Make Sense Of Online Dating?

Have you ever noticed that most Internet profiles start with “I am” or “I want?” And although you’re the one looking for true love, your profile shouldn’t be only about you.

“dating Online is not about you, it’s about the other person you’re wanting to attract to you. This is also known as Compound Interest. For a change try to ‘Pay it Forward’ and watch what happens,” Chaszey says.

“What, I have to pay something forward?” you may say.

Let’s give this some thought. The Online dating industry takes in over $2 billion dollars per year, with more than 10 million daters looking for true love online. With that many people online looking for true love just like you are, you will most likely spend your time rejecting others and getting rejected yourself. Another way of saying this is once you have made your outstanding profile public, what’s left to do is really weeding through the dozens or even hundreds of men or women that come towards you.

Meanwhile, and until you have found your “one and only,” focus on strengthening your own kindness by earning karma points. Every time you need to say “thank you but no thank you,” instead of hitting the ready-button, formulate an e-mail that flows with grace and kindness.

Chaszey says: “Whatever we give out comes back to us tenfold. What people forget is that while people should earn our trust, no one should have to earn our respect and our kindness. Each and every person deserves these free gifts from us, for the simple fact that we are fellow humans living on the same planet, enjoying the same sunlight and walking fairly similar journeys called life. And let’s recognize that everyone is looking for the exact same thing: Unconditional Love.”

Learning how to send graceful rejections that don’t feel like rejections to your suiters takes time, effort and a kind heart. Chaszey says: “It’s so worth it because soon you realize your positive karma points are subject to compound interest and before you know it your life is changing in dramatic ways that you never dreamed possible. It’s hard to explain, but so worth it.”

These karma points serve like a bonus to help you build a new character and create a stronger and kinder you so you can bring into your experience the person you truly deserve.

So before you hit that pre-programmed “thanks but no thanks” button, take a few minutes and read the other person’s profile anyway, and send them a response that is filled with your kindness, not because they deserve it, but because that’s who you are.

Chaszey Sandhriel is Your Online dating Coach and helps Online Daters create sizzling results. You can visit her at www.YourOnlinedatingCoach.com or call her at 415.419.7952.

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