When your ex has just broken up with you the last thing you want to do is panic. That’s the instinct which immediately surfaces and the one which hits most spurned people.

But other emotions such as being hurt, getting angry and feeling desperate soon invade a person’s make up and the result of this is generally reaction.

Okay, there are any number of reasons for a break up but if you are confused about what to do think about these two things and decide which relates to you. Do you want this person back in your life and if the answer is no, start to the “moving on” process. Under no circumstances waste time either getting even or looking for revenge.

But if you feel the split is a consequence of something you contributed to and really want them back in your life then this article will give you several suggestions which can help you achieve your aim.

When Your Ex Has Just Broken Up With You

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#1. Your first one is to let him/her know how you feel. Write him/her a letter, apologizing for any bad behavior and reminding him/her of the good times you shared together.  Don’t be afraid to tell him/her how much he means to you and how much you miss him/her.

#2. Assuming you get a positive response to your letter, agree to meet him/her but do so in a public place. This will help prevent your discussions turning into a huge argument. You will need to be prepared to tell your man how you feel. Don’t hide your feelings. If you are angry tell him/her why but try not to turn the meeting into a blame fest.

#3. This will not help you in convincing him/her that you are good together. Keep the conversation to facts and also use the word I and not you. For example you should say “I feel let down” rather than “you let me down”. This is a lot less confrontational and less likely to cause offence or lead to another argument.

#4. Allow him/her to criticise you as well.  It is best if this is done in a constructive way.  We all have our faults and some of your less attractive character traits may be, in part, to blame for why he broke up with you.

#5. It is very important that you listen to what he says. Don’t assume you know what he is trying to say. Encourage him/her to say what is on his mind as this is the opportunity for you both to work through any issues in your relationship and come out of this a stronger couple. He may have made the decision to break up, but your behavior probably contributed to his decision.

#6. Do not play games and don’t feel that you have to hold something back in order to make him/her come back to you. This will only cause feelings of resentment which may lead to you splitting up again. Don’t look on a breakup as a negative. All couples go through good and bad patches.  It is a normal feature of adult relationships.

If your ex has just broken up with you put emotions aside however difficult it may be and use these tips to get things back on track.

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