If ever there was a topic that just about everyone has in common it’s got to be relationships. Moreover, breakingup and makingup have been the center of conversations all around the world.

It starts at a young age for most, from your first high school romance to more serious relationships later on in life. If you have landed on this page it’s a fair bet you are looking for some advice and guidance in love and getting back together.

If you have recently been spurned in a relationship then we know the emotional turmoil you are going through right now. It’s more than likely you didn’t see it coming and now you are trying to deal with it the best way you can. For many, it’s a time when they feel totally isolated from the world - feelings of anxiety set in and it’s as if you are under a microscope and the brunt of gossip.

The Dear John Phone Call

Well, that’s how it felt for me the first time I was spurned. That cold phone call I received out of the blue letting me know “my services were no longer required in this relationship.”

I thought it was a joke - I didn’t want to believe it and acted accordingly. Feelings of panic and desperation set in and my instincts told me that I could straighten it out by simply talking with her and letting her know that she was making a big mistake.

When this didn’t have any impact I resorted to letting her know I couldn’t live without her and might even do something drastic. It was a needy response and at the time, it was the worse thing I could have done. Needy and desperate behavior only drove her further away and none of the phone calls, text messages or emails I bombarded her with had any effect. I was becoming something she began to resent and in the end, whatever chance there was of a reconciliation I totally screwed up.

Does this sound like a familiar story? T W Jackson who has penned the most important system guide in makingup over the past ten years The Magic Of Making Up, says when someone is dumped in a relationship the first mistake they make is to let feelings of desperation and panic take over. What they should be doing is thinking counter intuitively. You can hear what “T W” has to say by clicking here.

How To Survive Your Relationship

Whether you are trying to win back the favor of your ex or looking for some guidance in stopping a divorce and saving your marriage, LoveAndMakingUp.com will have more than enough advice with tips from experts on either winning back your ex, getting over them in super quick time or pinpointing areas of your relationship that are eating away at it “like a cancer” and leading to a breakup.

Knowing how to avoid these problems is much more beneficial than trying to fix them up when things fall apart.