If you are trying to save your relationship then you will be aware that making a wrong move right now could close the door shut forever on getting back with your ex.

Many people spurned will react instinctively and let emotions like panic and desperation take over their thinking. For example, wanting to argue that your ex is making the wrong decision or letting them know that they are to blame as much as you for the relationship taking a turn for the worse. Either of these two steps can be considered a wrong move.

Right now, your ex is angry and upset about something you did or about the relationship. And this means the last person they want to hear from is you. Have you ever considered that acting opposite to your instincts is the right thing to do. In other words, walking away and leaving them alone might just be the catalyst for making up in the future.

T W Jackson who wrote the best selling blueprint for getting your ex back, The Magic Of Making Up says it’s time to introduce some counterintuitive thinking. He says instead of pouring out your heart this is a time to play it cool and agree with the break up. Does that make sense? Right now, probably not.

Two Counterintuitive Steps To Consider

The first technique you need to use is to agree with and accept the fact that your ex has broken up with you. This can be very difficult to do and the chances are good that you will have a bit of an internal battle before you’re able to do so.

It can definitely help to understand why you need to accept the breakup, and how it can help you get back together. The main reason is because you need to give your ex time to respect and miss you again. The chances are that they are mad or upset with you at the moment, especially if you’ve beem nagging them about getting back together.

The second technique you need to use is to cut off all communication. You’re probably about ready to close your browser right now! Hold on, because this technique really does work. It helps you to accept the breakup and is the action that shows your ex you are serious.

By not communicating you are allowing your ex time to miss you and time to get over the reasons for breaking up. This space will be good for your mental health as well, and will help you to think clearly.

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