Don’t Be the Interrogator!
By DavidWygant | October 9, 2008
During the ten years I’ve been coaching women, I’ve worked with many successful career women. Something that is very common among them is that they forget how to flirt. They’ve devoted so much time and effort into building their careers and becoming part of a “man’s” world, that they forget how to flirt.
Now don’t mistake what I’m saying. The world is pretty equal in a lot of ways, and women are very successful in the business world. Women have become equally independent to men in many cases, buying their own homes and achieving financial success equal to (or sometimes greater than) men.
The way most successful career women became successful, though, is they fought for it. They played “the man’s game.” They challenged men head-on in the boardroom, at business meetings, in court and in sales.
They were tough. They were ambitious. They were competitive. They were aggressive. They took charge.
All of these qualities are fantastic for women to have and utilize to become successful in their careers. They are the same qualities that men can carry over into their dating lives and which will attract women they meet. As a woman, though, the reverse is not really true.
If you’re a woman and you’re out on a date, the guy doesn’t want to be interrogated by the CEO. The guy also doesn’t want to be interrogated by the top saleswoman, lawyer, or executive. The guy wants to be with the feminine part of you.
So what you need to do when you’re out on a date is to bring out your feminine side. You need to bring out the woman that the guy wants to see.
Now granted, unless you’ve just met a man he already knows what you do for a living and how successful you are. So don’t think I’m talking about hiding or downplaying any of your career success. I’m also not talking about you needing to be less successful than any man you date.
What I’m saying is that it’s okay to let a man be “the man” in the dating dynamic. A lot of women have become the man in their relationships. They’ve become the CEO of their relationships. They’ve become the CEO of the bedroom.
Now I understand that it can difficult for women to initially switch gears between how they act at work and how they act when they’re in a personal relationship with men. I also don’t want any woman to think that men don’t appreciate some of these “career qualities” in women. Men love women who are smart and passionate about their lives.
The fact of the matter is, though, that it is your feminine energy that attracts men to you – it’s the way you act, the way you smell, the way you touch and the way you taste. So if you’re looking to connect with men on a deeper level, you need to be able to separate the “work you” from the “personal side you.”
Men need to see the personal side of you and experience your feminine energy when you’re out on a date with them, because they don’t want to go out with an interrogator. They don’t want to feel like they’re on a job interview. They don’t want to feel like they’re being evaluated and questioned.
This is a quality that a lot of very successful women bring into the dating world. They interact with men on a date the same way they interact with men on the job. While men will respect you for this in the boardroom, it will not create attraction for you in the dating world.
If you are one of these successful career women, you need to find your feminine side again so you can take her out when you leave the office. In order to become a great feminine woman again, you need to tap into the very sexy side of you that you’ve hidden.
Remember that when you’re on a date with a man, that you don’t have to battle him like you do men at work. You don’t need to battle with us at dinner. You don’t need to battle with us in the bedroom. Then again, a battle in the bedroom can sometimes be a lot of fun . . .
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What Are The Different Stages Of Attraction?
By ClarenceLee | October 9, 2008
If we analyze the way we respond to other people, we will realize that we feel magnetized by some and repulsed by some others. The magnitude of feelings for others is a direct measure of how attracted we are to them, or how deep our interest runs for these people. It all starts out with the initial meeting. We meet someone and spend time on casual conversation with him or her. Then we get to know more about his or her personality and our interest deepens. Subsequent to these, we feel like the other person has become a friend who we can talk to about anything. The relationship goes from formal to informal, from casual to personal and from strict to easygoing.
If we delineate the differences among the different stages of attraction, we come up with a short list of what actually happens when we fall in love with a person. These steps are illustrated in the following list.
Attraction to Physical Appearance
A person’s outward appearance is the first thing that others notice. A person who has ‘good looks’ will seem more captivating to someone who likes a particular thing about the way that person carries herself or himself. Some like brunettes, blondes and redheads; while others like men and women with jet black hair.
Liking another person’s way of dressing is also considered a part of the attraction to physical appearance. As the clich? goes, beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. What is pretty to someone could be mundane to another person. Another angle to this stage of attraction is getting attracted to a person’s sex appeal. There are people who are not particularly good looking but manage to inspire desire in everyone they meet.
Attraction to Personality
After the initial physical attraction comes the fascination with personality. In a sense, getting to know what makes a person laugh or smile, if he laughs or smiles at all, is like filling a black and white picture with color.
A person could be more attracted to a polar opposite of his personality. Some extroverts may prefer the company of other extroverts because they can do the same activities and share the same experiences. Introverts may also prefer extroverts to other introverts because the former increases the chances to overcome shyness or timidity, a trait associated with being an introvert. There is no clear cut rule to evaluating what combination works. It all depends on the environment where the partnership is needed. In a business environment, a union with members showing opposite personalities could work in such a way that what one lacks, the other supplies.
Attraction to Intellect
When you find yourself getting attracted to the way a person thinks and puts his or her thoughts into words, you know that your relationship with that person has gone deeper. Getting to this stage of attraction means you have spent time talking to this person and finding out what his views are about different issues or concepts. The way he or she conveys ideas could be very attractive, particularly if you are a person who appreciates a healthy discussion about everything.
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Online Dates - Useful Tips For On Line Singles
By AmyWoodside | October 8, 2008
Looking for dates online is booming last few years. Many marriages are created from these online relationships. Singles seek online dates more usual than before. Creating a successful profile to attract online singles is not easy at all. First, you need to think about a good screen name. A screen name is a distinct name that represents you. It is like “Cathy 27″ or “Smally Hittie”. Anyway, selecting a good screen name makes your profile to stand out from others. You should not ask too much personal information in your profile body. Keeping your profile as accurate as possible will get the right date. Your profile should not be too short or too long. Your personal profile is the first step to meet singles on line so you make sure you have a good profile.
When you receive a message from other singles, do not answer them right away. You should wait for at least a day or so before answering their messages. Depending on each person ’s perspective, there is a difference when joining on dating services online. Young singles seek dates from online dating sites to flirt or chat. Divorced singles may look for long term relationships or marriages from these on line dating services. Statistics show there are many marriages which are generated from these online dates. Seeking an online date is easy and convenient. All you need is a computer with internet connection. Meeting singles online is as common as meeting singles at bars or night clubs.
When a member ask you too many personal questions, then you know this is not a good type for you. This is the same thing when you chat with him/her. Too personal questions should not be asked during the first messages or on the first few chats. For example, you chat with a guy in a chatting room, he keeps asking about your personal information such as annual income, houses, and others. You know for sure that this single guy thinks about money instead of love. You should stop right there and do not contact with him anymore.
There are two types of dating service for online singles, free and paid dating services. Usually, singles seeking for serious partners will go with paid dating services. On line singles have to pay a monthly fee from these paid dating websites. It is really paid off because honest dates can be found on paid dating sites. Some people find more serious dates from free online dating services too. It depends of each person to select which type to join. Starters should try free dating services to get familiar first before go for a paid dating site. Either free or paid dating service is good.
We all know that seeking an online date is easy as 1, 2, and 3. If you are looking for a date online, then you should join these online dating services to meet your other half. Do not wait. Take action now. Register your profile and start chatting to meet that special someone of your dream.
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