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by Sarah Love

Have you ever tried to communicate with someone you’re dating about how HE is feeling? It’s not usually too easy to pry feelings from the depths of a man’s mind, underneath all the football, baseball, cars and “man things” that take up the space in there. The thing is – if you are at the point in your relationship where you are wondering what your boyfriend is thinking and feeling about you and your relationship right now… then it might already be TOO LATE.

This is one of the often missed communication problems in blooming relationships. I know from my own experience what a torturous feeling this can be. I cannot imagine that you want to go down this road either.

But its not all about just feeling horrible, either. You could lose your man if the communication does not correct itself between you. Your boyfriend may already be thinking about LEAVING and you won’t even know it.

So what can you do to make this right? I am going to give you a few simple pointers on action steps you can take TODAY to start bridging the communication gap.

The first step toward making your relationship better is to make YOU better. You need to quit trying to get inside his mind and instead focus on understanding what is going on in your own mind. You must learn that you are in complete control of your actions and reactions at all times. Learn to master this control and master yourself before you move on to any of the other steps.

The next step you can take is very simple – start thinking, acting and reacting to situations in a positive way. When we women get hurt or afraid, often we go into “vulnerable mode” – which HE can see is needy or clingy. Stop doing that – react in a positive manner to situations and stop expecting the worst. Expect better things and you will get better things.

The third step to mend your relationship communication is to begin looking beneath his words. Begin trusting in your intuition to understand what he is or is not saying to you. Then, instead of physically voicing your questions – start to ask yourself the questions and begin relying on your intuition to give you the answers.

The fourth and possibly most important tip I will give you is to learn to correctly interpret what your intuition is telling you. Let’s say you’ve been cheated on before and now you have the sinking feeling that your current boyfriend is cheating on you as well. He is acting sneaky and odd. But later you may come to find out that he is planning a surprise birthday party for you. This was not at all what you thought was going on.

The point is – don’t let your insecurities cloud your intuition. You may think something is going on, but in reality, it could be totally opposite of what you think it is. Allow it to play itself out without jumping to conclusions. If you want to read more dating tips and relationship advice, click below.

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