From a very early age, most of us are taught that lying…just isn’t good! Dare we forget what happened to that poor wooden puppet boy Pinocchio? Every lie he told made his nose grow that much longer. Surely, we didn’t want that to ever happen to us, so for the most part, we have tried to tell the truth.

Still, despite our efforts, there are a lot of lies circulating around the world, especially when it comes to dating! Some of the lies are told to us by other people and some of them, we actually tell ourselves.

Let’s examine 5 Big Fat Dating Lies.

Dating Lie #1.

“You’ll find love when you least expect it.”

How many times do you need to be told this big fat lie? When I was single this was the one lie that I really hated hearing. In fact, so often when well intention family and friends (who were all part of a couple) would say to me, “Just stop looking! You’ll find love when you least expect it.” I would respond back with a quick, “I’ve been least expecting it for quite some time, thank you very much!”

I don’t think you find love when you least expect it. That’s as stupid as saying, “You’ll get a job when you least expect it.” Do you think anyone would ever recommend that a person interested in a new career should not look? Don’t send out a resume either, I suppose. Don’t search in the classifieds for a new job. In fact, just give up the job search all together and suddenly, miraculously your dream job will show up, unannounced… when you least expect it! Right? Wrong! That entire thought process is insane!

I believe in looking, I believe in putting yourself out there, I believe that just giving up isn’t the answer to finding love! Changing your mindset is the answer !

What does changing your mindset mean?

It means that you will find love… not when you “least expect it” but instead when you are truly ready for it. Someone who is ready for a relationship has taken time to have a healthy perspective on themselves and a real attitude toward others.

They no longer are looking for Prince Charming or Ms. Beauty Queen to come into their lives, fall madly in love with them and live happily ever after. They are being open minded to the true qualities of a person versus superficial ones that fade over time. They will begin to look at members of the opposite sex with a more realistic set of eyes. They become attracted to someone that they can talk with, have fun with and most importantly have the same ideals, values and hopefully goals for themselves.

When you are ready to get real and be open to that kind of sincere love in your life… then you will find love and you won’t just be “least expecting it”.”

Dating Lie #2.

“All the good ones are taken”

This lie is very interesting to me. If all the good ones are taken then why are you still single? Are you really a loser? Of course not! The fact is that there are over 100 Million single people just in the United States alone! I bet there are more than a few of them that are great… just like you! Don’t buy into this negative thinking.

Dating Lie #3.

I’ll know it when I meet “the one”

Every romantic on earth wants to meet, “The One.” “The One” is our soulmate, right? He/She is just perfect for us. They can practically finish our sentences, they laugh at our jokes when everyone else thinks the jokes are stupid, we are wildly attracted to “The One” and there is an immediate chemistry that we just can’t deny.

Let’s get real, Romeo!

This type of initial chemistry does not mean that we have met, “The One.” In fact, it’s nothing more than pheromones initiated in our body that is part of the natural mating process, creating the desire to procreate and continue the human species.

Don’t get me wrong, this initial attraction is wonderful and serves its purpose to further develop a relationship. That’s great! But, it is rarely true lasting love.

True lasting love is one that stands the course of time. It is about meeting someone you are attracted to, getting to know them on a deep friendship level, truly caring about their needs and making a commitment to be truthful, respectful, supportive and loving toward them. I know many people who have fallen in love with someone they had known and been friends with for years. And then one day, they realize they have more feelings for that person than they realized. Friendship is an excellent building block for true love!

Don’t mistake that initial feeling of chemistry as true love… and don’t ever assume that it might take you awhile to realize that “The One” you have been looking for, has been there all along.

Dating Lie #4.

The Three Day Rule

If you meet someone you want to go out with, don’t call them for three days. This way, you won’t appear too desperate.

Who ever came up with this stupid rule? As a woman, I can tell you that when I was single this was one rule that I always thought should be broken. If you are fortune enough to meet someone you want to get to know better, then why wait three days to tell them so? Stop playing games! Most people love attention and everyone likes to know that someone else in this world finds them interesting.

Dating Lie #5

“I don’t want to settle”

Have people told you that you’re too picky? Is your standard answer, “I don’t want to settle!” Do you think you are doing yourself a favor by waiting for the perfect person to come into your life? Would you rather be alone than be happy with someone who isn’t perfect? Have you closed yourself off and set your standards so high that even Michael Jordan couldn’t reach the rim?

The truth is that if you’re expecting to find someone who is everything you ever dreamed of and you still find yourself alone after years and years of disappointment – let me enlighten you… “YOU ARE SETTLING!” Settling… for being perpetually single, unable to get real, unable to be realistic and unhappy about being alone.

We all make choices in life. We all settle for “something” too. We may love living in a big city, because we love the shopping, the cultural experiences, the night life, the restaurants and the job opportunities. On the other hand, we hate traffic, smog, crowds etc. Get the point? Everything in life is a give and a take… especially long lasting love relationships. Don’t settle for being alone too long, if you don’t want to be.

Remember the truth behind dating lie #2… there are over 100 million singles in this country… so refer back to the truth behind lie #1 and start looking in all the right places! You will find love, when your heart is open and you are truly ready to find it!

Jackie Mahaney is a dating & relationship journalist as well as an inspiring author of a novel titled, “Meet Delaney” and host of “Everyday Woman” found on Women Web TV. Mahaney writes about life’s personal relationships with honesty, integrity and of course, humor! To learn more about her books, relationship events and web tv show, visit Jackie Mahaney.

It happens all the time; there is some guy in your group that you suddenly and madly fall in love with. It is an inexplicable feeling, and happens with all of us. Most girls find it very difficult to pin down what it is that really attracts them to this one guy, but the attraction happens all the same.

However, things can become very frustrating if that one man they want does not want to reciprocate their feelings. So what do you do when you have a crush on a guy and you desperately want him, but he doesn’t know you do? Well, here’s a helpful list of things you can do if you are thinking the great way to find, attract and keep a guy for yourself.

1. One of the first things that guys would notice in a girl is her sense of humor. Trust me, it really works that way. Before thinking what you would clothe yourself in for the day, wear that smile. Guys are naturally attracted to girls who smile naturally, so no fake smile and no silly giggles. Just keep smiling the natural way, and remember to react to all his witticisms and wisecracks.

2. Another thing that you must have is a point of view. If you are with this person in a group of people, if you are going to act dumb, he is definitely not going to fall for you. Instead, you must have a point of view. Don’t go with what everyone says.

Those first two points on the way get a man to notice you want focused on the attitude changes you need to bring about in yourself. That always comes first if you are looking for a long term relationship. Now, here are the points that will help you physically attract the guy.

3. What clothes to wear? This is a common question. The answer is common too. Dress according to the occasion. Yes, men like to ogle at pretty girls who show some skin, but they would not much like to commit to such girls. You have to decide what you want to become, eye-candy or arm-candy. Dress accordingly. You can wear stunners, but only if the situation demands in. You must dress fashionably and keep it casual as much as possible.

4. Do your hair. Really! Men notice hair a lot. Even more than the face. Make sure your hair is well-kempt and is fashionable too.

5. Do not put on garish makeup. Put on makeup certainly but going overboard is overkill. Your makeup should be enough to hide blemishes on your skin without making you look too obvious.

6. Always be aware of current styles. Not just in clothes, but in everything, music, sports, even video games. Come across as an interesting person and the guy will surely want to go out with you.

Try these things. They are really good answers if your question is how to can easily, attract romance & get that man you want. The main thing to remember is to discover you as a person and then show this truthfully to the world. This is how men get ensnared to women.

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True love–that is, unconditional love–is such a puzzle for so many of us. We give it names like agape or grace, and think it is reserved only for a certain few or that it is so rare that we have little hope of ever finding it.

Yet true love displays many of the same characteristics as the lighthouse, which is neither rare nor all that hard to locate.

Indeed, the lighthouse nearly always stands on an elevated promontory, deliberately exposed to all on sea and land. Everyone is supposed to see (and hear) the lighthouse; otherwise it could not fulfill its purpose.

The mission of the lighthouse is to guide us through perils. Night and day, in any kind of weather, its steady light rotates in every direction–360 degrees–illuminating the safe harbor to travelers on sea and land. When fog shrouds its beacon, the lighthouse still shines and adds a loud horn to make sure all those within its range get the message.

Notice a few things about the lighthouse. First, its beam falls on everyone alike. Pilgrim or pirate, saint or sinner, it does not concern the lighthouse. Its rays are available equally to all, without any kind of condition or limitation. The only step they need take is to keep open their eyes (and sometimes ears). It is always their choice.

Second, the lighthouse does not demand that travelers pay heed to its warning. It does not uproot itself, wade out into the ocean, take a ship by the prow, and insist that the vessel steer toward safety. The lighthouse, by its very nature, sets the example of the “tough love” that respects others’ free will to follow their own spiritual paths.

Even if a million ships pass by without attending to the lighthouse, it does not become discouraged or start to think that there is no value to its purpose. It keeps shining its light because eventually, someone will notice and will avoid danger thanks to its illumination. That is true faith.

Third, the most brilliant part of its own light falls on the lighthouse itself, demonstrating that light–and love–are a two-way street, to the benefit of both the recipient and the giver. This is perhaps the hardest lesson of the lighthouse–that giving unconditional love (light) to others is not meant to be a painful sacrifice. We deserve to receive as much love as we lavish on others.

So what does the lighthouse teach us about true love? That we all deserve it, no matter who we are or what we have done. That we cannot force our love/light on others because doing so violates their free will. As puzzling as it may seem, others have the right to reject our light/love. And, last but by no means least, that we merit our light/love as much as anyone else to whom we give it.

These are deceptively simple lessons. Simple in this case should not be equated with easy. Most of us have a tough time understanding these lighthouse teachings at even the most basic level. We hoard our love and refuse to give it to certain people or groups. We foolishly rush in where angels (lighthouses) fear to tread because we lack faith in others’ free will and thus are certain we know best for them. Or we try desperately to give love while insisting that we are not worthy of it, and giving then hurts because our own cup of love is bone dry.

Yet true love–lighthouse love, unconditional love–is the simplest of all love. Perhaps that is precisely why we don’t get it. We’re so accustomed to complexity that we discount the validity of anything so utterly simple.

Since complexity doesn’t seem to be working for us, why not give simplicity a go? Let’s simplify our love and look to the lighthouse as the example of how true love really works for others–and for us.

Candace (C.L.) Talmadge is the author of the epic fantasy Green Stone of Healing(R) series and a political columnist syndicated by North Star Writers Group. As StoneScribe, she blogs about the intersection of politics and spirituality.

We learn many things growing up – some of them are useful, and some get us into messes we can’t figure out. For many of us, the journey to healthy loving relationships started out upside down and backwards. We learned to focus our attention on other people before we knew and loved our own self. The truth is that never works. There are three arenas that require our attention not just one. Those three arenas are self, source and then others. Here is what they look like:

Self: This is your unique identity, your personality, all that you consider yourself to be.

If you don’t know yourself as an individual what really do you have to share with someone else? Part of the joy that occurs when we interact with others comes when we feel that someone really “gets us.” They seem to know who we really are. We feel understood, appreciated and accepted. This is so much more likely to happen when we “get” ourselves first.

Source: This is your true essence – beyond your personality self.

Connection with source energy replenishes and reminds us that we are all made of the same stuff, and that stuff is essentially good, wise and loving. Remembering this about ourselves makes it more likely that we will recognize others as magnificent expressions of source energy also. When we turn our attention inward and relax our personality selves we gain access to our core essence qualities. Things like joy, wisdom, freedom, creativity, and power exist as potentials inside all of us. These core qualities are not unique to us, but are shared with everyone and are available when we choose to contact them and call them forward. When we take time to know our own source energy we are more prepared to see the same essential goodness in others.

Others: This is where the juiciness of our human interactions takes place – with others.

Others includes the ones who push our buttons, the ones who attract us and the ones who repel us too. The beauty of real love is that in loving others we are enriched ourselves. When we enjoy the personalities of others, and celebrate their essential qualities we feel expanded and enhanced. This is so much more likely to occur when we take the time to get right with our own selves first.

Connecting from self delights us and assures that we will have genuine connections with others.

Connecting from source unites us, uplifts us and assures that our relationships will not stagnate but instead with expand and grow.

Connecting with others fulfills us.

Why leave any of it out?

Peri is the Founder of Creators Choice – Online School for Whole Life Fulfillment and supports clients worldwide to experience freedom in love and to claim their own power. Visit http://www.creatorschoice.com for free gifts to enjoy right now.

Making your love life better is a definite way to make you and your partner live a better life. Love making may appear like a distant memory that occurred for some when they were young teenagers full of unconvinced sexual liveliness. Now that you have finally grown up, have a successful career, and barely enough time for yourself people completely forget the importance of their love life. Most couples start to feel too old and think they can’t make passionate love anymore and just tend to live their life in misery instead of trying different ways to make their love life better.

Tip #1: Shock Your Partner. If your significant other is washing the dishes or just watching tv, slowly go behind him/her and message their shoulders. They will quickly forget about anything they are doing and focus all their attention completely on you. No matter what is going on, this stimulation will shift their focus no matter what.

Tip #2: Set the Scene. Make a music CD with you and your partner’s absolute favorite love making songs on it. Buy lots of fruit and light many candles. Set the scene and set the night. Your love relationship will definitely grow.

Tip #3: Respect Each Other. It is hard to make passionate love to someone that you don’t find attractive or always put down. You need to give your partner comments on a daily basis such as you look good or you are losing weight. Giving positive reinforcement will better your sex life and help your relationship tremendously. If you’re a guy and your wife worked hours fixing her hair, please NOTICE IT. Please let her know her hair looks amazing. After all she fixed it for YOU!

Tip #4: Have Sex at the Appropriate Times. You can tell right away if your partner is in the mood or not by their actions. The worst thing you can do is try to force your partner or egg them on to have sex. If they don’t want to there is no point in pushing and pushing for it. If you do have sex after the other doesn’t want it, please expect to have terrible sex.

Using these 4 tips will definitely better your sex life and love life. You will be in love more than you could ever possibly be in love. It will feel like you just met your partner and are on your first date. Using the right tips will give you a giddy feeling all over again and you will experience feelings and different sides that you have never ever felt before in your relationship. Finding new ways to please each other will grow your relationship to new heights and new levels. A love game seems to work well to increase your love life also. Using sex toys and love games will take your relationship to new heights and the 4 tips listed in the above article. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this article will help you with your love life!

S. Millson is an expert in the area of sexual psychology, techniques, and methods. Millson is well respected for bringing back better sexual enjoyment for both men and women. S. Millson’s website, http://www.iknowsex.com has a plethora of information regarding how to spice up your sex life and relationship advice.